Many of us feel that a loving experience, that is to say the knowing that we are a loving being, capable of giving and receiving love to all that need it, may see the need to be in a place of calm and a state of peace. Many may also feel that is not in my local supermarket. Hussle and bussle, rudeness, rushing and generally no love, peace or calm in this place.
Time to go a little deeper. If I am a person capable of giving and receiving love, why do I look to restrict myself to certain times and places? Why do I say I can be loving in one place and not another? If I do that then what I do is exclude my ability to love others in certain places. So in a place of calm and I can be loving to all I meet. But in a place of frenzy I cannot. But surely that means I am wasting an opportunity and using an on/off switch? If I say I cannot be loving in a supermarket, then I exclude all the people in that place, who are probably feeling just as I do, they too probably feel they cannot be loving towards others.
See the dilemma? People switch off their love in a place that needs love, thus contributing to the lovelessness of the place they are and creating instead anguish, anger and anxiety, which does not help. Also what if we take these "shopping" feelings with us, in the car on the way home, in the home we live in, to work, to school? We perpetuate this lack of loving by continuing to throw around the toxicity of our "shopping" feelings.
What can we do to stop this toxic overspill? Simple, do two things.
First recognise yourself as a loving being, not some of the time, but ALL of the time. A person capable of loving yourself and ALL other people, animals, plants and other objects you come across, all of the time. You may not like everyone you meet, but you can love them, without condition or judgment, just love them as your fellow being, a brother, sister, partner, lover. Love them all no matter what.
Second recognise that all places are sacred and all are capable of having love within them. Don't make excuses that a place is too busy, too ugly, too noisy to have loving calm within it. Be the change you want to see in the world. Be the love in a loveless place, recognise people not as fellow shoppers all in a rush to buy "stuff", but as fellow loving beings. Give them some of your love.
How? You don't need to say 'I love you' to everyone you meet, but you can demonstrate loving and kind behaviour. Courtesy, politeness, an offer to help someone struggling with too much to carry. A smile to the person at the checkout, put some money in the charity pot. These are the gifts of loving kindness available to us all to in turn give to others, try them and see how much love you give and then receive as a results of your actions.
Please enjoy March and have many loving experiences.